Redefining the Family

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I am not a part of the clergy. I have not spent years studying theology. I do not have a degree in divinity. I am merely a Christian. This is a simple, straight forward perspective on why sex outside of the marriage of a man and woman, goes against scripture, creation, redemption, and the nature of God. In other words, redefining the family is not in our best interest.


The basis for redefining the family is homosexuality. What the Bible says about homosexuality is found in 8 scriptures of the Bible. (Below *) If you take these scriptures as they are, without distorting the text, there is no scriptural basis for redefining the family.


Redefining the family violates God’s plan and purpose for mankind from the beginning of creation.

God created man in His own image,
in the image of God He created him;
male and female He created them.
God blessed them; and God said to them,
“Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth,
and subdue it; and rule over the fish of the sea
and over the birds of the sky and
living things that moves on the earth.”


Redefining the family ignores what the image of a husband and wife represents:  Christ the Redeemer and Heavenly Bridegroom and the Church His bride.

For this reason
a man shall leave his father and mother
and be joined to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.
This mystery is great; but I am speaking
with reference to Christ and the church.

The Nature of God

A part of God’s multi-faceted nature is His immutability. This means God is not able to change His nature or is He able to change His mind. Once a truth is set, such as the family, it cannot change.

For I am the LORD,
I do not change.

God is not a man, that He should lie,
nor a son of man, that He should change His mind.
Does he speak and then not act?
Does he promise and not fulfill?

Finally, the Bible is full of stories of people, like the prodigal son who do whatever they want, apart from God’s will. For awhile they are care free but in the end they are most miserable creatures. Disregarding what the Bible says about the family implies that we know better than God. We think we are wiser than God. We believe God has made a mistake.

Redefining the family is the error. This is not God’s will for the world. It assigns people to a life of misery, wretchedness and despair.

Why would anyone support a change that would do such a thing to another human being?

End Notes:
* Genesis 19:1-11; Judges 19:1-30; Leviticus 18:1-30 (22); Leviticus 20:1-27 (13); 1 Corinthians 6:9-20 (9); 1 Timothy 1:3-14; (10); Jude 1-25 (5-7); Romans 1:26-27
Genesis 1:27-28 NASB, 1960
Ephesians 6:32-33 NASB, 1960
Malachi 3:6 NASB, 1960
Number 23:19 NIV, 1984
Luke 15:11-32

© 2019 Lena Rae

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Lena Rae

I love Jesus! He is my eternal hope, fullness of joy, calm in the storm and so much more. I enjoy reading, cooking, blogging and bird watching. I have two wonderful kids and a loving husband. God is good.

6 thoughts on “Redefining the Family”

  1. It grieves me very much, watching the culture accept and then embrace lifestyles that are clearly contrary to the way the Lord intended, and are an insult to Him. These sexual inclinations that are outside of the blueprint set up for us have been there ever since man became flawed. Yes, the urges can be strong, and sometimes they win. That doesn’t make it right in the eyes of God. I may covet or steal or gossip, too, because those urges have not been resisted and disciplined. And thank you Lord for forgiveness.
    Sexual predators and child molesters have uncontrollable urges to do what they do; just listen to the stories of some of these people who are now incarcerated. You think sexual interraction with a child will Never be condoned by this society? It’s already “on the table” and being practiced elsewhere, and we seem to be sinking more and more into the pagan and godless practices we refused to consider only a generation ago.
    After all, it could be said of the child molester that it’s his or hers “true nature” so much simply be put into a controlled and consenting situation.

    We need the guiding hands of the scriptures and the Holy Spirit. None of us have escaped being affected by the re-definition of family. Will we start ignoring the Lord’s directives and justify it?

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    1. You are the second person who has said to me, someday we will condone sexual interaction with children. It is hard to think this would be possible.
      No matter how hard it is to post the truth, we must keep doing it. We must also pray for a revival. God is our only hope.
      Thanks for your comment!

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  2. So sad that this is reality…may people grab the word of our Lord and choose to follow…ugh we live in a messy, ugly world..I keep hoping Jesus would return anytime now..saddens me to raise kids in this world as it continues to get worse.

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  3. My daughter has joined with another woman into a lesbian relationship. And now they want to have a child together so my daughter has become pregnant by a sperm donor. It makes me so sad but I don’t want to lose her. She knows how I feel but says we will just agree to disagree. She was raised to know the Lord and know the right way. Her father and I were married 55 years before his death. She says she still loves the Lord so I know she must know this is sin. But the other woman is so good to her and she feels she needs her. I have put her in the hand of God and I now am not anxious about this. I trust the Lord to work in her life. I won’t tell the Lord what to do. I will just wait and see how this all turns out.

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    1. Thank you for your comment. These are difficult days we live in, certainly soul stretching. Even though heart-broken it sounds like you have taken the best direction by putting your daughter in God’s hands. Know that you are not alone. Being the parent of adult children is challenging for all of us in one way or another. May God continue to help you. May He work in your daughter’s life as you look to Him.


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