The Feminist Movement began when I was in high school. It had a huge impact on my generation and beyond. Feminists were known for throwing off the traditions once held by women. Feminism was recognized for freedom from the existing roles and expectations of women, as mothers and keepers of the home.
Women were informed, in order to be a liberated woman, reach for it all. Women were on par with a man and equally able to handle a career, family and marriage. We were told to grab for all the gusto you can get.
In spite of all this I have remained a traditional woman. I was not endowed with natural strength. Early on I realized that if I spread myself too thin my life would collapse.
Actually, this was a blessing. I enjoyed being at home, raising my children and running the home. Thankfully, I had a husband who was able to support us but this wasn’t without sacrifice. I understand for many reasons some women do not have this option. Either she has no husband or she doesn’t have a husband who can support them.
I have been studying the Bible book of Titus. It is an epistle written by the Apostle Paul to his child in the faith by the name of Titus. Paul left Titus in Crete to set things in order. Crete needed to hear the gospel. Then they were to model their lives after a godly lifestyle that Paul clearly laid out.
Paul lists what these lifestyles looked like beginning with older men and women, younger men and women, and finally slaves. Since I fall into the group of an older woman I will start here.
3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior,
not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine,
teaching what is good,
4 so that they many encourage the young women
to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind,
being subject to their own husbands,
so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
Titus 2: 3-5 (NASB)
First, please don’t kill the messenger. If you are a Christian women, and you do not like what this says, talk to God about it. After all, these are His words not mine.
Second, it would be difficult but not impossible, to be a young working woman, and fulfill this word to young women. How? This all depends on her priorities.
My sister would fall into this category. When she was a young working woman her desire was to be a full-time wife and mom at home. Then when her husband became a full-time pastor staying at home became possible. However, she was home for one summer and by fall she was back working as a teacher.
Even though she worked outside the home her priority was with her family. She loved her husband and children. She was sensible, pure, kind, and subject to her husband. Along with working outside the home she also worked in the home. She had what I don’t have. The natural strength to do both.
As it turned out it was a good thing my sister continued working outside the home. Her husband became disabled. She has been the only wage earner for many years and his caregiver.
A Christian wife and mom, who works outside the home, has a balancing act. If her heart is not with her family and her career becomes more important, the word of God will be dishonored. (Titus 2:5)
Often her marriage will suffer and fail. Frequently, her children will suffer and become undisciplined. Consequently, the microcosm that represents Christ and the Church, no longer represents Him to the world, and the word of God is dishonored.
Truly, women cannot have it all. To think we can is a fallacy.
Christian wives and mothers need to ask some hard questions. For example, why am I working? Is it really necessary that we have two incomes? Do we really need a large home, a boat and a cottage? What is more important my family or my fulfillment?
Have I made this a matter of prayer? Do I know for certain God wants me to work? Am I trying to fulfill a need I have or expectations on me? Is obeying God important to me? Finally, what will matter in eternity?
If you have thought that you can’t keep working because it’s just too hard. Listen to your heart. God may be speaking to you!
No temptation has you in its power
but such as is common to human nature;
and God is faithful and
will not allow you to be tempted beyond your strength.
But, when the temptation comes,
He will also provide the way of escape,
so that you may be able to bear it.
1 Corinthians 10:13 (WNT)
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